another mother day


May is Mother’s Day month.  In honor of this special day, I would love to share a letter I wrote to my mom years ago so that she knew how much I loved and respected her.  There is no love like a mother’s love.  I am blessed and honored to have such a loving mother.  I hope you enjoy my letter but also take the time to write your mother a letter.  Even if she is not in this physical reality, she will be able to hear you as her soul is always with you.


My Mother


I’d like to tell you about a lady that I admire a great deal.  She was born on December 13, 1940 in a small Northern California town.  She came from very humble beginnings but became larger than life to many, including me.

I always remember my Mom being there for me no matter what.  As a child, she watched over her children through thick and thin.  Our house was not one of indulgence, but she always made sure we had everything that we needed.

The one thing that I am most proud of with my Mom is her strength and determination in times of adversity.  When she was faced with a difficult decision of making life better for herself as well as her children, she didn’t hesitate.  She did whatever she could to make it possible.

Hard work came easy to my Mom for that is what she had done her whole life.  It is this value that she instilled in her children that I am most grateful for.

Now being a Mother I am sure is no easy task.  There is no class you can take no reading manual or study guide to make you better, or no College program you can take to become degreed in this field.   But I’m sure if there was, my Mom would make a great teacher.

I am grateful for many things my Mom has done.  The most important to me is making sure that her children were taken care of and had a roof over our head and food on the table.  Too often, we forget how important these basics are but I know I never will.

Looking back on my child hood, I am blessed to have the childhood that I did have.  My most cherished memories are ones on the farm, playing with my sisters, eating Mom’s biscuits and gravy, going camping and even the times when I was being scolded.   The one thing though that was most important to me, was always knowing that I had a home and a Mother that loved me.   It was a home where I felt safe, where no one could harm me and where I would always be loved.

My Mom is now enjoying the best time of her life.  I am very proud of what she has accomplished and the even greater person that she has become.  If you ever get a chance to meet her, consider yourself lucky.  I know I do.

I’d like to end my story about my Mom by saying this:  Mom, I love you and I am grateful for all that you have done for me and my sisters.  As I look at my life, I only hope that I can be a shining example of you.  You deserve the best in life and know that you are loved by not only me, but your family and many friends as well.

With all my love,



So that was my letter.  I saved it after all these years and share it as often as I can.  I hope you enjoyed it and can find inspiration.  I also write in my upcoming book on how my mother dealt with my HIV status.  It was definitely not easy for her or other members of my family.  Now they know that I probably won’t die of HIV but of old age.  In fact, I might even outlive all of them.  🙂  For now though, my mother has helped me in so many ways know that HIV is something that makes me a fighter and for that she knows that I can overcome anything now.  Until next time, enjoy all of life’s blessings and give thanks for the special mother’s in your life.